The only relatives I have that are alive and still in are some aunts, an uncle, and some cousins. I have had little contact with them in the last 40 years. And NO contact in the last 4 years. I doubt very seriously that they will ever leave. And it really doesn't matter to me what they do. Although, I do think they are absolute fools and it is sad that my family ever got involved with this cult.
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Have You Given Up on JW Friends or Family Ever Seeing The Light And Getting Out?
by minimus ini'm always hopeful but mostly doubtful that they will get out of her..
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So, my husband would not even meet the elders who just happened to drop by this morning.
by Julia Orwell inhe stayed inside and kept going about his business like they weren't even there.
i engaged them on the verandah hut politely explained that they'd caught us at a bad time as we were doing a big cleanup of the house.
the elders had even bought a pack of chocolate cookies around, so they were expecting to be invited in and offered coffee.
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Congratulations to you and your husband! Keep it up!
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Got a angry letter from our oldest son today we are very hurt from it.
by TotallyADD inwhen i got home today from work my wife showed me a 5 page letter from our oldest son.
he basically said he does not what anything to do with us because of all the wrong things we did as parents to him and his brother.
he blames us for not being there for him and we are toxic parents.
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I think your response is very good. I understand the feelings of your son. I have very similar feelings toward my own parents. But my parents are both deceased and I never got an apology or an explanation about my JW upbringing. You have made a step toward healing. Now your son has to forgive. Best wishes for your family.
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Your earliest doubt?
by Apognophos inthis might be an unfair question for those who have been out of the organization for decades, but i'm wondering if any of you remember your earliest doubt -- maybe something odd that occurred to you as a kid (if you were a jw then).
please try to limit to two doubts at the most :-).
i think my first "doubt" was simply realizing that at the time of the flood, every animal that wasn't in the ark died (well, besides the fish, supposedly).
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I don't know exactly what age. But I'm going to say 7. My father's family were not JWs. But I never believed that those grandparents and aunts and uncles and cousins and all my friends in my neighborhood and school were going to die at Armageddon. That just made no sense to me. I couldn't accept that.
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JW Petty Stuff
by EmptyInside ini had a nice visit with a relative of mine.
he's very active in the religion, unfortunately.
but,in conversation,(he has no idea of my fade),he mentioned some issues in his current congregation.
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I think that you will choose to start seeing your relatives less and less. You will eventually have almost nothing in common with them.
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For all the newbies.. the Belief-O-Matic...what religion should you be? Test your religious beliefs.
by jemba ini noticed that this thread has been done before by blacksheep but i loved doing this test and i loved the results i got... apparently i need to look into reformed judaism.
jemba .
sorry firefox wont let me cut n paste but heres the website:.
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Mainstream to Liberal Protestant.
Orothodox Quaker
Liberal Quaker
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My son was murdered today
by truman ini have been on this site daily, almost from its beginning, since i left the jws in 2001, but i have been more of a reader than a poster, as you can see from my post count.
i know few here know me, although i know many of you through reading your posts.
maybe it is not right to ask for support, when i generally stay quietly in the background of this forum, but i want only to speak a human misery of the deepest kind.
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My deepest condolences. I am so sorry for your loss and your pain.
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They don't think you can truly be happy "outside"
by lilbluekitty ini was on the phone with my mom last night (she's an uber-dub with a don't ask, don't tell type policy where we basically just don't discuss the fact that i celebrate holidays and go to church regularly etc.
) and she said she was talking to one of my old friends from the hall there.
the friend asked my mom how i've been and my mom said she made a face and kind of went "ehhh..." and talked about my lack of meeting attendance (she doesn't know it's way more than that) and my friend shook her head and said, "aw, that's too bad, but i've been in ruts like that before" as though i'm just depressed and don't feel like going lately.
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But that is what they are taught over and over from the pulpit. Brainwashed. They have to believe it in order to stay in.
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Hello!
by digderidoo injust having a browse ... wow 11 years ago i joined this site.
in previous years i had a number of ex jw issues and this site really helped both for support and to vent my anger.. hello to anyone who remembers me, though there looks many new ones now..
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I remember you. Welcome back. Also an aa'er. Birthday May 9, 1991.
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They don't think you can truly be happy "outside"
by lilbluekitty ini was on the phone with my mom last night (she's an uber-dub with a don't ask, don't tell type policy where we basically just don't discuss the fact that i celebrate holidays and go to church regularly etc.
) and she said she was talking to one of my old friends from the hall there.
the friend asked my mom how i've been and my mom said she made a face and kind of went "ehhh..." and talked about my lack of meeting attendance (she doesn't know it's way more than that) and my friend shook her head and said, "aw, that's too bad, but i've been in ruts like that before" as though i'm just depressed and don't feel like going lately.
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I agree with freetosee. The best thing I ever did was leave the wt cult. I no longer have any contact with any of my relatives that are or were JWs. It's sad in some ways but nobody's life is perfect. It has been the best choice for me to create my own life away from all of them. I truly believe that I would have committed suicide many years ago if I had not left.